Saturday, August 8, 2009

beyond surviving

It's coming up to the one month death anniversay of my niece, Callie. I don't want to say too much because this situation is so personal and heartbreaking for her parents. The loss of a loved one is probably one of the toughest life experiences anyone will ever have to go through.

I would like to share some info that I found from an article, Beyond Surviving.

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Know you can survive. You may not think so, but you can.

Struggle with why it happened until you no longer need to know why or until you are satisfied with partial answers.

Know you may feel overwhelmed by the intensity of your feeling but all your feeling are normal.

Be aware you may feel appropriate anger at the person, at the world, at God, at yourself. It's okay to express it.

Remember to take one moment or one day at a time.

Find a good listener with whom to share. Call someone if you need to talk.

Don't be afraid to cry. Tears are healing.

Give yourself time to heal.

Expect setbacks. If emotions return like a tidal wave, you may only be experiencing a remnant of grief, an unfinished piece. Try to put off major decisions.

Give yourself permission to get professional help.

Be patient with yourself and eith other who may not understand.

Set your own limits and learn to say no.

Steer clear of people who want to tell you what or how to feel.

Know that there are support groups that can be helpful.

It is comon to experience physical reactions to your giref, e.g. headaches, loss of appetite, inability to sleep.

The willingness to laugh with others and at yourself is healing.

Wear out your questions, anger, guilt or other feelings until you can let them go. Letting go doesn't mean forgetting.

Know that you wil never be the same again, but you can survive and even go beyond just surviving.

1 comment:

steph N Jay said...

Thank you Leesh....we are blessed to have such caring people in our lives. love you.