Do you ever wonder what happened to people you 1) once dated? 2) hung out with for a couple of months? 3) worked with? 4) went to elementary or high school with? 5) disliked?
I wonder a lot what happened to certain individuals who played an instrumental part or just was a part of it at some point in my life, like ex-boyfriends, the guy I shared a locker with, the girls I used to pass notes to in class, the 20-something club I belonged to when I worked at an ad agency, friends and acquaintances I hung out with throughout the years.
I know Facebook and LinkedIn would probably reconnect me to many of these people but I am so hesitant to join in - I don't really know the reason why. So I connect with these people, then what? You exchange a couple of messages about what you have been up to for the past several years, and then it comes to an end. Because in reality, there's a reason why you are no longer in each other's lives.
For example, a couple of years ago, I set up a small reunion for my grade 8 class with a girlfriend I re-connected with. It was great to see everyone because it had been over 20 years since I had seen some of them. We caught up with what's been going on in our lives and then what, nothing. I haven't spoken them since then. It was really nice to see how we have all grown and maybe it would great to see them in another 20 years. I guess that's what reunion are for - to see everywhere is at with no expectations of having to maintain friendships if you don't want to.
With social media, you can creep on people's lives through their status updates and photos but really, there's no connection. It's a superficial, social relationship. I don't know if I am okay with this, maybe it's why I am not on Facebook. I rather meet up with someone in person and catch up with them face to face.
So, I want to know, do you ever seek out and find people from your past? When you do find them, do you make an attempt to meet them in person or just follow them through social media? Do you rekindle your friendship? Or do you just leave people from your past in your past and just think about the relationship you had with them and leave it at that - as a memory?